I want to tell you about a day that changed me—but in the most unexpected way.
It was an ordinary afternoon. I was in a conversation with someone I care about deeply. Nothing major was said, but suddenly, I felt this knot in my stomach. A wave of defensiveness rose inside me. I cut the conversation short, and I walked away feeling angry, hurt, and confused.
Later that evening, I kept asking myself, “Why did I react like that?”
It wasn’t even what they said—it was what I heard beneath their words.
And that’s when I realized… it wasn’t about them at all.
It was about me.
Something inside me got triggered—and I didn’t even know it was there.
That moment, I met my subconscious mind.
It’s strange—how we think we are in control.
But the truth is, so many of our choices, reactions, and emotions come from a place we rarely visit… the hidden mind, the subconscious.
That place stores every past hurt, every unhealed wound, every belief we picked up as children when we didn’t have the words to explain what we were feeling.
In that quiet moment of reflection, I sat down, closed my eyes, and asked:
Where is this really coming from?
And I remembered… a moment as a child when I felt like my voice didn’t matter.
I had buried it. But it had been shaping me for years.
That was the seed.
And once I saw it, I cried—not out of pain, but out of relief.
Because now, I could do something about it.
I whispered to myself:
“You are heard.”
“You are seen.”
“You are safe now.”
And I meant it.
You see, healing doesn’t begin with blaming others.
It begins the moment we bring awareness to the unaware parts of ourselves.
When you catch yourself reacting, stop and ask:
- Is this really about now?
- Or is this about something I haven’t healed yet?
Your triggers are not flaws.
They are signals—pointers to what needs your love, your understanding, your attention.
And once you find the root, you can pull it out.
And in its place, you plant something new: trust, safety, worthiness.
That’s how you reprogram your mind.
Not overnight, but moment by moment—with awareness and compassion.
That day, I didn’t just react.
I met myself—and that made all the difference.